Why is emotional intelligence "your next" big shift?
Sometimes the things we pay the
less attention to, turn out to be the most relevant for us.
Imagine yourself trying to read a book written in many different and
complex languages, while you only understand a very few of them. This is what
exactly happens, when we interact with people. The human brain is just like a
very complex program, with each of its brain cells, made up of strong
algorithms able to analyse and compare, any received information with millions
of past memories, in different ways, varying from a person to another one.
When it comes to juxtaposing this reality to our social interactions,
the exercise gets harder because assuming that our interlocutor or the person
we have at the other side may have many reasons for not understanding a point, in
the same way we do, may sometimes be tough; and the good news is, no one says it
should be easy! However, what experts call Emotional Intelligence, is a strong
prerequisite to building connections and ties, since the beginning of times. Here
is why!
Looking at yourself in a mirror, ask
these few questions without any excuse to your ego. What are my reactions at
others? What is my relationship with my co-workers? How could I rate my ability
to handle stressful situations? Do I take responsibilities to my reactions or
do I consistently blame others? Adding a “why” to the answer of each of these questions,
is a good start to our personal emotional intelligence assessment and this is
really needed if we do want to track our well-being on a daily basis. For sure,
this is not another self-sabotage or negative self-criticism process. Instead,
only ourselves have the ability to decide how to handle and react over other people’s,
mistakes, remarks, bullying, or wrong assumptions and bad perceptions of who we
truly are. A spark does not react the same way, when put in glass jars,
respectively filled with fuel or water. Yes you just got it! It’s up to you to
be the fuel or the water and whatever the choice, the first to be affected is
you…
We do have many tiny and ready to
explode sparks which appears at any time and any place of our daily lives. The
way we handle them, determine who we become and even our success in life and relationships. This means, the best you could offer yourself is learning how to handle your
personal emotions first. It may be very hard for you to change the way your
relatives or even your friends and colleagues understand your path, your choices and your actions, because they are processing all these information according to
their own perceptions, experiences and what they have considered as meaningful in their life
path. Reacting according to them, may be very dangerous because every person
has it owns set of standards, beliefs and goals.
The Best you owe yourself is to
raise your standards, learn more about yourself and your emotions, in a way
that helps you stay grounded in achieving your personal goals and objectives. This is why I say that Emotional intelligence in your next big shift. Good luck!
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